HT: Justin Taylor
In part 5 of the “How to Be Good and Angry” seminar, Paul Tripp talks about what happens if you fail to acknowledge that anger is something that lives inside of you, not outside of you. He said that if you fail to acknowledge this:
- You will personalize what is not personal.
- You will turn God-given moments of ministry into moments of anger.
- You will be adversarial in your response.
- You will settle for quick situational solutions that don’t get to the heart of what is really going on (such as breaking off relationship, moving locations, giving condemnation, slandering the person, manipulating to get someone in your favor).
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Paul Tripp shows the progression of how good things in life become bad things, and then proceed to ruin our relationships. (This isn’t an exact quote, just my paraphrase.)
Desire is basically an “I want…” Jesus did this Gethsemane. But then he said, “Father, not my will, but yours be done.” Well, our desire then morphs very quickly into a demand: “I must…” Desire then morphs further into a need: “I will…I cannot live without it.” When you call something a need, you have made yourself unwilling to live without it. A need then morphs into an expectation: “You should.” The Expectation leads to disappointment: “You didn’t…” Then disappointment leads to punishment: “Because you didn’t, I will…”
Then you will say to the other person, “Because you haven’t delivered what I want in this relationship, I won’t stick a knife in your chest, but I will rise to the throne of creator, and I will treat you as if you are dead, for however long it takes, to satisfy my personal vengeance.”
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Every sin is bad. Every sin corrupts. Saying a little white lie will send you to hell just as equally as a fornicating sin will. However, sexual immorality goes a bit deeper. Sexual immorality cuts to the core of humans in a way that other sins do not. The reason is simple: it’s intertwined with the heart and soul and mind, as well as with the body. Not every sin is like that. That’s what Paul means in 1 Corinthians 6:18 when he says that every other sin is outside the body, but the sexual immoral person sins against his own body. To sin sexually, Paul might say today, means you are practically going to ruin your life (here on earth, not just in eternity).
John Calvin explains it like this: “[Paul] does not altogether deny that there are other vices, in like manner, by which our body is dishonored and disgraced, but that his meaning is simply this — that defilement does not attach itself to our body from other vices in the same way as it does from fornication. My hand, it is true, is defiled by theft or murder, my tongue by evil speaking, or perjury, and the whole body by drunkenness; but fornication leaves a stain impressed upon the body, such as is not impressed upon it from other sins.”
Sexual immorality has a way of tearing apart lives and relationships in a way that other sins do not. This doesn’t excuse other sins. This doesn’t mean that obscene pride and outrageous lifestyles will not ruin a life. O, they will! But a plain reading of Scripture reveals this truth especially about sexual immorality. Proverbs 5:8-11 teaches us, “Keep your way far from her [that is, the forbidden woman, v. 3], and do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your honor to others and your years to the merciless, lest strangers take their fill of your strength, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner, and at the end of your life you groan, when your flesh and body are consumed.”
There is hope amidst this dismal picture. The good news of the gospel is that Christ’s blood has redeemed you. Your sexual purity is a blood-bought gift that was purchased on Calvary. Know that God owns your body, and he has made it for himself, for holiness. What better incentive is there to kill sexual sin (as well as every sin)!
Sexual immorality will consume your flesh and your body and your heart and your mind in an all-together differently destructive way than every other sin. Paul teaches that. Proverbs does, too. It’s all over Scripture. Every other sin is outside your body. Sexual sin is against your own body. Flee sexual immorality. Please, it will save you from ruining your life.